Respecting Women, Being Attracted To Women; You Can Do Both

(Edited for clarity so a friend doesn’t think I’m calling him a homophobe.)

Who doesn’t like being groped by strangers?  Oh right, everybody.  Listen guys, this is not difficult.  Unless you have a relationship of some sort with a woman, you should not be touching them.  End of story.  You also shouldn’t be laughing at other women being groped by strangers.  Nor should you “like” videos of such.

See that woman walking alone down the street?  She’s pretty hot, isn’t she?  Make eye contact with her as she walks by.  Smile at her.  Maybe even wave politely.  Congratulations, you were successfully attracted to and respecting of the woman!  Wasn’t that easy?  There are very few other options in this scenario.  A vast majority of women would not be comfortable with you approaching them.  To do so is to disrespect all women even if you happen to be successful in striking up a conversation.  You are saying that your needs are greater than the woman’s needs.  You would be wrong.

See that woman sitting on the train reading a book?  Ooh la la!  Is she reading a book that you have read?  No?  Then leave her alone.  She wants to read.  Congratulations, you were successfully attracted to and respecting of the woman!  But you say you have read the book?  Do you have something productive to say about the book?  No?  Then leave her alone.  She wants to read.  But you say you do have something productive to say?  Very politely interrupt her and say what you have to say.  Pay very close attention to social cues to determine if she wants to be interrupted.  If she doesn’t, apologize for interrupting and leave her alone.  She wants to read.

See that woman playing volleyball against you?  Sexy and athletic!  You are in a social situation so feel free to talk to her and flirt with her if she seems receptive.  That’s what social situations are for!  Just remember, she is under no obligation to return your interest.  She may just want to play volleyball.  It is not her fault she doesn’t want to talk to you.  It’s not your fault she doesn’t want to talk to you.  It’s just a current state of being.  Congratulations, you were successfully attracted to and respecting of the woman!

See that woman at the bar?  What an outfit!  She is likely there to have fun.  You know you are there to have fun.  Feel free to talk to her and flirt with her if she seems receptive.  That’s what social situations are for!  Just remember, she is under no obligation to return your interest.  She may just want to hang out with her friends.  It’s not her fault that she doesn’t want to talk to you.  It’s not your fault that she doesn’t want to talk to you.  It’s just a current state of being.  Congratulations, you were successfully attracted to and respecting of the woman!

That wasn’t so difficult, now was it?  Just remember, that woman is a person.  Say that to yourself before you approach her.  Ask yourself if you would mind a guy coming up and flirting with you in that situation.  If you would never want be ok with that, you are likely a homophobe and should get over that before attempting any relationship.  If you think that you would be flattered if you just swung that way, chances are that the woman would be too.  Follow these simple rules and you too can be respecting of and attracted to women.

2 thoughts on “Respecting Women, Being Attracted To Women; You Can Do Both

    1. Jean-Paul Post author

      Ha! That’s awesome. I somehow completely missed Flight of the Conchords when it was on. Shame on me.

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